She began to sit with us during supper — but one of us would distract her while the other put food up their sleeves. We were obsessed with being thin. Doctors said we had to put on weight if we were not going to damage our fertility — but it went in one ear and out the other.
Six months into the courses, their tutors realised something was wrong. So we were called in and told that she would have to go to hospital to recover. Six months into the courses, tutors realised something was wrong and the twins were sent to different hospitals for treatment but it wasn't long before they were back together and losing weight again.
We also managed to get hold of mobile phones and hid them in cupboards. Meanwhile, Katy had put on half a stone, but once out of the clinic, she reverted to her old eating habits.
Incredibly, they both graduated from medical school in and are now qualified doctors. They now share a flat in Finchley, North London, and their parents support them — though it is clear from their sparse living arrangements that money is tight.
So what of their future? And of relationships with men? Some doctors say it might be possible if I get to a healthy weight; others say I may have ruined my fertility. I want fertility. I am per cent ready to change this time.
If having one anorexic daughter is bad, having two, united against you, is truly terrible. From pre-teen to adult. Year after year after year. When our twin daughters were born on our first wedding anniversary, both our families were thrilled, and we were so proud.
Anorexia crept up on them insidiously. Although my daughters maintain that we were not aware of their illness until they were 15, this is simply not true. My suspicions were raised when they were aged about 11, as I recognised the familiar signs of discomfort around food from my own experience.
You see, for me, their illness was also the return of a personal terror. I had suffered from anorexia as a teenager in the early s — something that my father, a GP, had picked up on immediately. That advice may not have helped — but by my early 20s I had beaten it. A talent for gymnastics that turned to an obsession. The fact that we were young parents without much financial security. Any one, or all of these, may have contributed. Whatever the reasons, like most mothers, I blamed myself.
I was out of my mind with worry by this time, but any discussion of this with Katy and Maria was met with blank denial. Around this time, I also started finding food hidden behind cupboards, and uneaten cakes and biscuits in their bedroom drawers.
For the next three years we watched helplessly as our daughters wasted away before our eyes. Mealtimes became a nightmare, as we let go of all normal conversation in our anxiety to make sure that at least some minuscule portion of food got eaten. Right from the start, the doctors explained that the girls were competing against one another to be the thinnest. Yet, any time we attempted to break their solidarity, they would both turn on us in fury.
In the beginning, Walter never suspected that her fourth-grader might be developing an eating disorder. In fact, the physical changes in Sheila came so gradually that neither Walter nor Sheila's pediatrician noticed them at first. At her well-child checkup in July, Sheila's weight was still within the normal range for her growth pattern, and she showed the early signs of puberty -- breast buds, a slight widening of the hips -- that a doctor would expect to see in a girl her age.
Walter mentioned her concern about the change in Sheila's eating habits, so the pediatrician explained the importance of eating from all the food groups, including fats, and Sheila said she understood.
By the end of August, there was no mistaking that something was terribly wrong. Normally a "happy, social, easy-going girl," according to her mom, Sheila became withdrawn, anxious and depressed.
She complained of being cold all the time, despite the hot Chattanooga summer, and kept bundled up in sweatpants and baggy jackets. When Sheila put on a swimsuit for the first time in weeks, Walter was shocked: "She looked like a death-camp survivor, all bones.
I asked her, 'Sheila, do you realize how much weight you've lost? So I took a picture of her and showed it to her and asked, 'Is this too skinny? A rush trip to the doctor revealed that Sheila had lost 17 pounds -- almost a quarter of her body weight -- in the six weeks since her well-child visit. Her body temperature was only 94 degrees, her heart rate was low and she was severely dehydrated. Immediately, the pediatrician hospitalized Sheila, and Walter tried to arrange for her to see a child psychiatrist.
I remember calling the psychiatrist's office and saying, 'Please, we can't wait. My child will be dead in three months.
Then she starts eating less and less of her food. When her parents bring her into treatment, she is emaciated but pinches a tiny amount of flesh between her thumb and forefinger to illustrate "how fat" she really is.
She is a full-blown anorexic. She cuts her food into smaller and smaller bites and eats fewer and fewer of them. Her parents have no idea she's anorexic until a pediatrician notes that though the girl has grown taller, she hasn't gained weight in more than a year. The less she eats, the more concerned her parents become about her health. Soon the fighting virtually stops, transformed into a shared fear for their daughter.
The family dynamic has shifted away from the divorce, and her parents have inadvertently reinforced the girl's eating disorder. Stories like these alarm experts.
Eating disorders are dangerous at any age, but when one isn't recognized in a child, or when treatment comes too late, the effects can be catastrophic. Children have a lower percentage of body fat, which means they get much sicker much faster than adolescents and adults. And because their bodies and brains are still developing, the most severe cases can permanently affect their development -- limiting growth potential, damaging vital organs particularly the heart, kidneys, and brain -- even when the eating disorder is eventually successfully treated.
Once considered a risk only for wealthy, high-achieving teenage girls, eating disorders such as anorexia and, more rarely, bulimia are becoming increasingly common among children, even little boys. We used to see one or two a year at most, but we've almost always got one or two boys in the program now.
The average age for the onset of anorexia used to be 13 to If you, or someone you know is struggling with an eating disorder visit beat for free help and advice.
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